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Resolving Conflict as a Prophetic Community
The community in Madinah was not free from disagreements. People of different tribes, backgrounds, levels of faith, and personal histories lived together. Conflicts naturally appeared between individuals, families, and groups. What made the Madinan community special was not the absence of disputes, but the way the Prophet ﷺ managed them and turned many of them into opportunities for purification and growth.
In this chapter, we will look specifically at how disputes inside the Muslim community were managed, the principles the Prophet ﷺ applied, and a few key incidents that show his method in practice. Wider issues such as hypocrisy, external plots, and major scandals belong to other chapters, so here we will focus on everyday and internal conflicts among believers.
Unity as a Foundation
Islam did not deny that disagreements would occur. The Qur’an acknowledged that even believers can slip into quarrels, and warned that such disputes can destroy strength and blessing if left unattended.
Allah تعالى says:
وَأَطِيعُوا اللَّهَ وَرَسُولَهُ وَلَا تَنَازَعُوا فَتَفْشَلُوا وَتَذْهَبَ رِيحُكُمْ
“And obey Allah and His Messenger, and do not quarrel, lest you lose courage and your strength depart.”
(Surah Al Anfal 8:46)
The Prophet ﷺ taught that the basic relationship between believers is one of brotherhood and sisterhood. Disputes are exceptions that must be corrected, not a normal state to accept.
إِنَّمَا الْمُؤْمِنُونَ إِخْوَةٌ فَأَصْلِحُوا بَيْنَ أَخَوَيْكُمْ
“The believers are but brothers, so make settlement between your brothers.”
(Surah Al Hujurat 49:10)
This verse, revealed in Madinah, is one of the clearest foundations for managing disputes. It does two things at once. It reminds the community of their core bond, and it commands them to actively reconcile those who have fallen into conflict. In Madinah, this principle guided many practical decisions, whether the dispute was about honor, old tribal rivalries, or day to day issues.
Key principle: In the Prophetic community, unity is the default state, and reconciliation is an obligation when conflicts arise.
The Character of the Prophet ﷺ in Conflict Resolution
Managing disputes required a leader who was just, gentle, and accessible. The Prophet ﷺ combined all of these qualities in a unique way. People who were angry, hurt, or ashamed could still come to him, knowing that he would listen, be fair, and not humiliate them.
Allah described him:
فَبِمَا رَحْمَةٍ مِنَ اللَّهِ لِنْتَ لَهُمْ ۖ وَلَوْ كُنْتَ فَظًّا غَلِيظَ الْقَلْبِ لَانْفَضُّوا مِنْ حَوْلِكَ
“So by mercy from Allah, you were gentle with them. And if you had been harsh and hard-hearted, they would have dispersed from around you.”
(Surah Aal Imran 3:159)
In matters of dispute, this gentleness did not mean neglecting justice. Rather, he combined mercy with firmness. He clarified rights and responsibilities, but wrapped this clarity in kind words, patience, and understanding of human weakness. People felt safe enough to admit mistakes, which is a crucial step in resolving conflicts.
He also made time for individuals, even though he was the head of state, judge, commander, and teacher. Many narrations show companions bringing personal grievances to him and receiving a thoughtful answer. This accessibility created a culture where people sought lawful solutions instead of taking matters into their own hands.
Qur’anic Guidance on Etiquette of Disagreement
Several Madinan verses gave the community practical etiquette to prevent small disagreements from growing into major divisions. These teachings formed the background to the Prophet’s management of disputes.
Allah says:
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا اجْتَنِبُوا كَثِيرًا مِنَ الظَّنِّ إِنَّ بَعْضَ الظَّنِّ إِثْمٌ ۖ وَلَا تَجَسَّسُوا وَلَا يَغْتَبْ بَعْضُكُمْ بَعْضًا
“O you who have believed, avoid much suspicion, indeed some suspicion is sin. And do not spy or backbite one another.”
(Surah Al Hujurat 49:12)
Suspicion, spying, and backbiting fuel many disputes. By cutting these off, the Qur’an protected relationships before they decayed. The Prophet ﷺ explained through hadith that believers must avoid many behaviors that strain ties and lead to arguments.
He ﷺ said:
لَا تَحَاسَدُوا وَلَا تَنَاجَشُوا وَلَا تَبَاغَضُوا وَلَا تَدَابَرُوا وَلَا يَبِعْ بَعْضُكُمْ عَلَى بَيْعِ بَعْضٍ، وَكُونُوا عِبَادَ اللَّهِ إِخْوَانًا
“Do not envy one another, do not inflate prices one to another, do not hate one another, do not turn your backs on one another, and do not undercut one another in trade. Be, O servants of Allah, brothers.”
(Sahih Muslim)
The Madinan community learned that managing disputes begins long before open conflict, with the purification of hearts from envy and hatred, and with honest dealings between people.
The Prophet ﷺ as Judge and Arbiter
In Madinah, the Prophet ﷺ functioned as the final judge in disputes. Both Muslims and non Muslims could bring their cases to him. This formal position brought structure to conflict resolution.
Allah commanded:
فَلَا وَرَبِّكَ لَا يُؤْمِنُونَ حَتَّى يُحَكِّمُوكَ فِيمَا شَجَرَ بَيْنَهُمْ
“But no, by your Lord, they will not [truly] believe until they make you judge in all disputes between them.”
(Surah An Nisa 4:65)
This verse links true faith with willingness to accept the Prophetic judgment, even when it goes against personal desire. In practice, this meant that community members had to train themselves to submit to justice, not to tribal bias or self interest.
The Prophet ﷺ made clear that his judgment was based on evidence and testimony, not personal feelings. He ﷺ warned that a legal victory does not always mean moral innocence if someone hid the truth.
He said:
إِنَّكُمْ تَخْتَصِمُونَ إِلَيَّ، وَلَعَلَّ بَعْضَكُمْ أَنْ يَكُونَ أَلْحَنَ بِحُجَّتِهِ مِنْ بَعْضٍ، فَأَقْضِيَ لَهُ عَلَى نَحْوِ مَا أَسْمَعُ، فَمَنْ قَضَيْتُ لَهُ مِنْ حَقِّ أَخِيهِ بِشَيْءٍ فَلَا يَأْخُذْهُ، فَإِنَّمَا أَقْطَعُ لَهُ قِطْعَةً مِنَ النَّارِ
“You bring your disputes to me. Perhaps some of you are more eloquent in presenting their argument than others, and I judge according to what I hear. So if I give someone, through my judgment, something of his brother’s right, let him not take it, for I am giving him a piece of the Fire.”
(Sahih al Bukhari, Sahih Muslim)
This teaching placed a strong internal check on those who might try to win disputes by clever argument. It also reminded the community that managing disputes is not only a social matter, but a serious moral responsibility before Allah.
Important rule: A judgment based on evidence does not make the unlawful lawful in Allah’s sight. Moral responsibility remains with the one who knows the truth.
Healing Tribal Tensions
Madinah contained the long rival tribes of Aws and Khazraj, who had fought bloody battles before Islam. Old wounds and memories did not disappear instantly when they became Muslim. At times, tribal feelings resurfaced and threatened unity.
On one occasion, a Jewish man reportedly reminded some members of Aws and Khazraj about their pre-Islamic wars, and recited old battle poems. Emotions rose and men from both tribes called out their battle slogans. Anger spread until swords were almost drawn. The Prophet ﷺ hurried to them and said words that cut through the rising tension.
He ﷺ said:
أَبِدَعْوَى الْجَاهِلِيَّةِ وَأَنَا بَيْنَ أَظْهُرِكُمْ؟
“Are you calling with the call of ignorance while I am among you?”
(Narrated in sources such as Musnad Ahmad with supporting reports)
He reminded them of their new identity and of the blessing of Islam that had united them:
وَاذْكُرُوا نِعْمَتَ اللَّهِ عَلَيْكُمْ إِذْ كُنْتُمْ أَعْدَاءً فَأَلَّفَ بَيْنَ قُلُوبِكُمْ
“And remember the favor of Allah upon you, when you were enemies and He brought your hearts together.”
(Surah Aal Imran 3:103)
When they heard this, the two groups realized how close they had come to falling back into old ways. They wept, threw down their weapons, and reconciled. This incident shows that the Prophet ﷺ did not only solve the immediate argument. He went to its root by attacking the old tribal mentality and reminding them of their shared faith.
Controlling Anger in Personal Disputes
Many conflicts begin with a moment of uncontrolled anger. The Prophet ﷺ repeatedly taught his companions how to restrain themselves at such times.
A man came to him and asked, “Advise me.” He ﷺ replied:
لَا تَغْضَبْ
“Do not become angry.”
The man repeated his request several times, and each time he ﷺ said:
“Do not become angry.”
(Sahih al Bukhari)
The scholars explained that he was not forbidding natural feelings, but commanding that a person must not act on anger in a way that disobeys Allah. In Madinah, this advice was not abstract. It was applied in family arguments, business disputes, and disagreements between neighbors.
The Prophet ﷺ also gave practical steps to calm anger, such as sitting down if one is standing, making wudu, and remembering Allah. These small steps helped prevent many minor disputes from turning into lasting conflicts.
Correcting Injustice While Protecting Brotherhood
Sometimes disputes began when someone wronged another. The Prophet ﷺ did not overlook injustice, even among close companions. At the same time, he protected the overall bond of brotherhood.
He ﷺ said:
انْصُرْ أَخَاكَ ظَالِمًا أَوْ مَظْلُومًا
“Help your brother whether he is the oppressor or the oppressed.”
The companions said, “O Messenger of Allah, we know how to help him if he is oppressed, but how do we help him if he is the oppressor?”
He ﷺ replied:
تَحْجُزُهُ أَوْ تَمْنَعُهُ مِنَ الظُّلْمِ فَإِنَّ ذَلِكَ نَصْرُهُ
“You restrain him or prevent him from oppression, for that is helping him.”
(Sahih al Bukhari)
This teaching turned the community into guardians of each other’s souls. If they saw a brother or sister starting to oppress another, they were responsible to stop them kindly. In Madinah, this helped prevent bitterness from growing, because the wronged person saw that the community did not leave them alone.
Core formula: Helping the oppressor means stopping his oppression. True brotherhood defends both victim and offender from sin.
Reconciliation and Voluntary Compromise
Not every dispute needed a strict legal judgment. Sometimes, the best solution was a compromise that both sides could accept. The Qur’an permitted and encouraged this.
Allah says:
وَالصُّلْحُ خَيْرٌ
“Reconciliation is best.”
(Surah An Nisa 4:128)
In financial or property disputes, the Prophet ﷺ often encouraged the parties to forgive part of their claim, or to settle with mutual agreement. This was especially true when enforcing full rights might harm relationships or stir up old resentments. However, he did this without forcing anyone to give up what was truly theirs.
For example, when two companions disputed about a piece of land or a debt, he would sometimes remind them of the reward for forgiving, or suggest a fair middle solution. Those who accepted such compromises gained spiritual reward and social peace.
He ﷺ said:
مَا نَقَصَتْ صَدَقَةٌ مِنْ مَالٍ
“Charity does not decrease wealth.”
(Sahih Muslim)
Many companions applied this principle by voluntarily overlooking small rights in order to end disputes, trusting that Allah would replace what they seemingly gave up.
Language, Mockery, and Respect
In a community with different tribes and backgrounds, language and jokes could easily cause offense. The Qur’an gave specific instructions to stop words from becoming weapons.
Allah says:
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لَا يَسْخَرْ قَوْمٌ مِنْ قَوْمٍ عَسَىٰ أَنْ يَكُونُوا خَيْرًا مِنْهُمْ وَلَا نِسَاءٌ مِنْ نِسَاءٍ عَسَىٰ أَنْ يَكُنَّ خَيْرًا مِنْهُنَّ ۖ وَلَا تَلْمِزُوا أَنْفُسَكُمْ وَلَا تَنَابَزُوا بِالْأَلْقَابِ
“O you who have believed, let not a people ridicule another people, perhaps they may be better than them, nor let women ridicule other women, perhaps they may be better than them. And do not insult one another, and do not call each other by offensive nicknames.”
(Surah Al Hujurat 49:11)
The Prophet ﷺ applied this by correcting companions when they used hurtful words, even if they did not intend serious harm. If someone reminded another of his past sins or origin in a way that dishonored him, the Prophet ﷺ would disapprove and point them back to the equal dignity of believers.
This careful control of language was a practical method of managing disputes, because many fights begin with a single insulting phrase or reminder of old shame.
Handling Jealousy and Rivalry
In any growing community, some people are more gifted, more generous, or more noticed than others. This creates a natural ground for jealousy. The Prophet ﷺ addressed this by redirecting envy into positive goals.
He ﷺ said:
لَا حَسَدَ إِلَّا فِي اثْنَتَيْنِ: رَجُلٌ آتَاهُ اللَّهُ مَالًا فَسَلَّطَهُ عَلَى هَلَكَتِهِ فِي الْحَقِّ، وَرَجُلٌ آتَاهُ اللَّهُ الْحِكْمَةَ فَهُوَ يَقْضِي بِهَا وَيُعَلِّمُهَا
“There is no [acceptable] envy except in two: a man whom Allah has given wealth and he spends it in the right way, and a man whom Allah has given wisdom and he judges by it and teaches it.”
(Sahih al Bukhari, Sahih Muslim)
Instead of allowing jealousy to turn into backbiting and secret conflict, the community was taught to admire good qualities and to wish to have similar blessings for themselves, without wishing the loss of the blessing from others. By cleaning the heart from destructive envy, many disputes were prevented before they began.
Reconciling Quarrelling Individuals
On a smaller scale, when two individuals quarreled and cut ties, Islam encouraged others to step in gently to heal the break. The Prophet ﷺ strongly warned against allowing such splits to continue without effort to mend them.
He ﷺ said:
لَا يَحِلُّ لِمُسْلِمٍ أَنْ يَهْجُرَ أَخَاهُ فَوْقَ ثَلَاثٍ
“It is not lawful for a Muslim to forsake his brother for more than three days.”
(Sahih al Bukhari, Sahih Muslim)
After this period, each side was expected to take steps toward reconciliation. The Prophet ﷺ praised the one who began the greeting of peace first. This small act broke the ice and often softened hearts. In Madinah, this teaching kept personal arguments from becoming permanent fractures in the community.
Critical rule: Cutting off a fellow believer for more than three days without valid reason is prohibited. The better person is the one who restarts the greeting.
Disputes Between Families and Spouses
Inside homes, the Prophet ﷺ also guided the resolution of conflict. While details of family life are discussed in another section, it is important here to note that he discouraged harshness and making private disagreements public.
He ﷺ said:
خَيْرُكُمْ خَيْرُكُمْ لِأَهْلِهِ
“The best of you are the best to their families.”
(Sunan al Tirmidhi)
In Madinah, when couples had difficulties, the Qur’an allowed the involvement of wise family members as arbitrators to try to repair the relationship:
فَابْعَثُوا حَكَمًا مِنْ أَهْلِهِ وَحَكَمًا مِنْ أَهْلِهَا
“Then send an arbitrator from his people and an arbitrator from her people.”
(Surah An Nisa 4:35)
This method used trusted insiders, not public exposure, to resolve disputes. The Prophet ﷺ’s own practice showed patience, forgiveness, and avoidance of humiliating anyone in family matters.
Financial Conflicts and Honesty
Money and property often become points of contention in any society. The Madinan community was guided by clear rules of honesty and fulfillment of trusts. The Prophet ﷺ emphasized returning deposits, paying workers fairly, and avoiding deceit in trade.
He ﷺ said:
آيَةُ الْمُنَافِقِ ثَلَاثٌ: إِذَا حَدَّثَ كَذَبَ، وَإِذَا وَعَدَ أَخْلَفَ، وَإِذَا ائْتُمِنَ خَانَ
“The signs of a hypocrite are three: when he speaks he lies, when he makes a promise he breaks it, and when he is entrusted he betrays the trust.”
(Sahih al Bukhari, Sahih Muslim)
While this hadith describes hypocrisy, its warning made believers careful about these traits. By reducing betrayal and broken promises, many financial disputes were avoided.
In trade disputes, the Prophet ﷺ encouraged full disclosure. He ﷺ said:
البَيِّعَانِ بِالخِيَارِ مَا لَمْ يَتَفَرَّقَا، فَإِنْ صَدَقَا وَبَيَّنَا بُورِكَ لَهُمَا فِي بَيْعِهِمَا، وَإِنْ كَتَمَا وَكَذَبَا مُحِقَتْ بَرَكَةُ بَيْعِهِمَا
“The buyer and the seller have the option [to cancel] as long as they have not separated. If they speak the truth and make clear [the defects], they will be blessed in their sale. If they conceal and lie, the blessing of their sale will be erased.”
(Sahih al Bukhari, Sahih Muslim)
This teaching protected business relationships and reduced grounds for accusations and quarrels.
The Spiritual Value of Making Peace
Managing disputes was not only a social duty in Madinah, it was seen as a spiritual act that brings one close to Allah. The Prophet ﷺ told the companions that making peace between people has great reward.
He ﷺ said:
أَلَا أُخْبِرُكُمْ بِأَفْضَلَ مِنْ دَرَجَةِ الصِّيَامِ وَالصَّلَاةِ وَالصَّدَقَةِ؟
“Shall I not tell you of something more excellent in degree than fasting, prayer, and charity?”
They said, “Yes, O Messenger of Allah.”
He ﷺ said:
إِصْلَاحُ ذَاتِ الْبَيْنِ، فَإِنَّ فَسَادَ ذَاتِ الْبَيْنِ هِيَ الْحَالِقَةُ
“Reconciling between people, for indeed the spoiling of relations between people is the shaver [that destroys].”
(Sunan Abi Dawud, graded authentic)
By describing broken relationships as something that “shaves” religion, he showed how dangerous unresolved disputes are. At the same time, he motivated believers to become active peacemakers, not passive observers.
Spiritual insight: Reconciling between believers can carry a reward greater than many personal acts of worship, because it protects the whole community.
Lessons from the Prophetic Method
The management of disputes in Madinah teaches several enduring lessons. Conflicts are unavoidable among human beings, but the way they are handled can either damage or strengthen a community.
The Prophet ﷺ taught that disputes must be approached with fairness, mercy, and a clear reference to revelation. He insisted on justice, but encouraged forgiveness. He refused to let tribalism, envy, or mockery tear apart the new brotherhood. He placed heavy weight on the heart’s intentions and on truthful speech, knowing that deception and pride are often hidden inside conflict.
By turning to him in their disagreements, the companions learned how to put Allah’s pleasure above their personal pride. Many walked away from disputes with hearts softened, not only by a legal decision but by spiritual reminders.
In every age, communities that wish to follow the Seerah must not only study grand events and battles. They must also adopt this Prophetic art of managing everyday disputes, remembering the words of Allah:
فَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ وَأَصْلِحُوا ذَاتَ بَيْنِكُمْ
“So fear Allah and set right relations between yourselves.”
(Surah Al Anfal 8:1)
Through this, the internal life of the community remains strong, and the example of Madinah continues to live in later generations.